You are what you do...

September 8, 2022

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“You are what you do, not what you say you'll do.”

― Carl Gustav Jung

To me, this simple statement means that I am never going to become the man that I want to be by always saying that 'I will do something'. To be the man that I want to be, then I must be that man today. Act... don't just say I will act.

Everyday, there is a choice in front of me. Do I keep doing what I have been doing, saying that I will work on things, or do chose the other path...Start 'doing', working on those things today, commit to myself and take ownership and responsibility for my life and the way I show up.

All of this learning that I have been doing won't mean a damn thing if I don't act on it. I can easily say that I will be self-confident, self-reliant, no longer have expectations, trusting, etc. These are just words; the word "will" is just a way to put off the work that needs to be done to become the man I want to become. Only by being can I change for the better.

Flipping that around, I see that what I was doing, how I was being, and how it caused me to show up. I was anxious, living in the past or planning for the future (not present), needy, insecure, etc. This are all things I was doing, and therefore they defined who I was and how I would show up.

I don't want to be many of the ways that my actions have indicated. There is nothing attractive to anyone, including myself, in being needy, insecure, coming from a place of lack, or lacking self-confidence.

In the past month, I have been much better about doing and not saying I will. This not-so-simple change has caused an incredible shift in my life. No longer am I preparing to make a change someday, because as my partner had once said, "Someday" is an illusion and doesn't exist. I agree and disagree with that statement. Someday will never come, if you are not willing to take the actions necessary today to reach your goal. In that scenario, someday will never come. Someday can come if you are willing to do the work today. When a child says that someday they will become an Olympic gold medalist, and then put in the time, work, and dedication to get there... someday is not an illusion. I wake up every day and do the work, I am dedicated, I show up, I learn and grow. I can't wait around with the idea that someday will magically arrive, I work to make it a reality.

I chose to change those things now, better myself, address my core wounds, acknowledge what has been in my shadow, and make the changes I need to make as I become the man I want to be.

On "The SuperAbundant Life Podcast", Olawunmi Brigue states, "someday is an illusion and if you truly want to see your situation transformed, you must start where you are with what you’ve got."

I realize how I have been showing up, how I have thought that eventually I would make changes and that someday, I would become whole and complete.

Forget "someday", I change today.

Today I finished the book "Unfu*k Yourself", by Gary John Bishop. He makes a great statement, "You are not your thoughts. You are your actions. You your actions are the only thing separating you from where you are and where you want to be. This isn't about seizing the day, this is about seizing the moment, the hour, the week, the month. This is about seizing your fucking life and staking a claim for yourself as though your life depended on it, because the reality is, it does."

My life and the things I want in my life depend on my ability to learn, to take action, make changes, become aware and start being different... showing up whole and complete. My actions definitely indicate where I want to be. I know what I want and what it takes to get there. My period of lack of action is over.